Saturday, August 12, 2017
It's Okay to Not be Okay
An issue has come up several times in the past few weeks. Someone who is undergoing a severely stressful situation, ends up apologizing or otherwise feeling guilty for breaking down.
I'm here to tell you, it is okay to not be okay.
Sometimes your life takes a turn that is just plain shit. When that happens, it is completely all right to mourn it, to hate it, to break down, and to not be as strong as you think you need to be.
Strength is not a hundred percent all the time. Sometimes strength needs to be recovered. Sometimes strength needs to be washed in tears. Sometimes it's just not right to have to be strong in the face of a shitty situation.
You are not a lesser person for doing this. You are not weak. You are not fragile. You are not wrong.
People need to learn that it is okay to cry. It is okay to be upset. It is okay to be angry and sad. It is okay to break down.
Those emotions, those reactions, are perfectly valid. Even if they are not the endpoint, even if they are not permanent. We can have temporary emotions. And sometimes, those emotions can be negative. They can be more negative than we want them to be. That does not define us.
In the words of Moana: This does not define you; you know who you are, who you truly are.